I told one woman I dated I liked to wear woman's clothing, did not say panties included, but she was appalled and told me to never call her for a date again. Doubt I will ever find an 'real' accepting woman to share.
That is way too intimate a subject to cover on a first date. You need to spend time getting to know the person and seeing if you would want to go long term with them before I would ever share such intimate info.
I think that if I did ever have a first date again(Married), that it would be one of the only experiences that I would wear mens underwear for. I feel that a new couple would have to get to know each other before crossing a bridge of this magnitude together. On a similar note, I recently let the lady that cuts my hair know that I wear panties. Her name is Beckie and she also does my wife's hair and kind of already knew of how subbmissive I am to Laura. She was not shocked in the least. She reminded me that Laura is a very lucky Lady and that many women would be happy to be married to a man that worshiped them.
I guess for that first visit to her boudior, I would see, if first, she comes right out and says, "You like me in my panties?" I would take that as some sort of encouragement, but I'd still go slow, and say, "Yes, I love the way they ripple all over you, whenever you move, and they've just gotta be sooo soooffftt; perhaps you find wearing them as much fun wearing them for yourself, as you do, to entice me? I find your visual foreplay for me lots of fun; let's make that last a bit longer, if you don't mind.," or something of that sort.
Or, I'd gently insist that she stays in her panties, a while longer, and see what she says.
In a mature relationship, there's obviously, a few steps that both have to go through, before the boudior visit takes place.
As pantiphreaks, we have to be extra aware, of all the red flags that pop up along the way. We certainly don't want to hurt ourselves, and, there may be a few women that take such high offense at the notion of a guy who loves panties, that she may arbitrarily decide to make us very miserable, no matter how maturely we disclose/behave in this situation, and wisely attempt to flee, if it turns out badly for us.
-- Edited by Breeziestroke on Tuesday 14th of June 2011 10:52:19 PM
Depends and no I don't mean adult diapers.... lol Back in my dating day not all that long a go I used to be very good at reading women. I could tell pretty much with 99% certainty weather they were a little kinky a lot kinky (my kinda gal) or plane Jane vanilla turnout the lite missionary only kinda sex. So It would depend on my reading of her so that being said and I am not a psychic not do I play one in TV I would choose a pair of gender neutral panties aka sexy male briefs and for the life of me I have a hard time telling the difference between some of them and fem panties. So I guess I would just go with the flow, if the opportunity came up for me to tell her that I wear panties I more then likely would tell her and if it turned her off oh well then so be it. Why would I want to build a relationship with someone and develop feelings, attachment etc. with someone who was not supportive of me wearing panties. Sorry life is too short.
I once told a women that i had on sexier panties than she did, and told her if i did'nt I would buy her drinks all night at bar, and if I did she would buy, well it turns out she bought, and we ended up dating for a while.
I have to throw a twist into this topic. A married wife for 19 years. I would definitely want to know sometime before we had sex the first time. Twenty years ago this would have blown me away on the first date but today if I were on a date and was told....that would be a different story all together.
A good question. It is because my own sexuality has been so repressed. Twenty years ago I didn't know the things I know now including 'men wear panties' but other ways to make sex more enjoyable. I was raised to believe it is a chore not fun ;)
I don't think it is appropriate to talk about on a first date, but it should be brought up before making love for the first time. If I had to choose one of the three choices on the first date, I would go with telling them.
With my wife I actually told her on our fourth date. We both had some baggage we wanted the other person to know before we became exclusive. What she had didn't matter to me and she didn't care that I wear panties all the time and crossdress in private.
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