How would any of YOU react, if you discovered that your son, was a budding pantiephreak, such as ourselves?
How had any of you reacted, when you did discover the same?
This is serious stuff; it follows from the "First Pantie Experience" thread/Topic. I would like to hear from you true bio-mothers, too, or alternately, how your wives dealt with it, guys. Donna, I'd very much like to hear what you have to say on this subject, please.
Just what would be your strategies, your plans, to help your lad out? As a first step, I strongly suspect that you'd probably not stigmatize him (As many of us were.), nor allow that to happen, if you could help it, and alternately performing damage control, if the knowledge already got out, past your families. And I also suspect, that letting him know about your pantielove, your pantieplay, and allowing him access, to your, and your wife's pretties, might be off limits; am I correct?
-- Edited by Breeziestroke on Wednesday 20th of July 2011 03:12:46 PM
Wow breezie, that's an interesting question. I'm not sure how I would handle it. I suppose I would accept it and not ostracize him. I'm not so sure I'd be willing to become a part of his experience or have him a part of mine. That would be too weird and is probably considered incestuous albeit on a different level. At most I would offer advice on discretion and situational awareness.
When my son was 16 or 17 I found some his sisters panties in his room. I never mentioned it to him or my wife. I simply took them and put them in the laundry. I'm sure he knew of my panty wearing habits because he would go through my things while I was at work. He never took anything of mine. At least not my panties.
Pink and Willie; I'm so glad to hear from you on this topic. Willie, I've especially missed your posts, for, what has it been, about a year?? Glad to see the old gang, the Old Boys, reassemble here, at any rate.
Your responses are very radical contrasts to what probably happened to us as kids, notably myself. To see how and why, please read "Prometheus, the Fire-Bearer!!" (My seminal post.), in First Pantie Experience.
My son is three so I have some time but if I discovered he was a panty freak like me at say the age of 12-14 I would give him his space with it inititially, not make him feel like he was "caught" (cuz it's not wrong IMO) and maybe in a few weeks/months grab a private moment with him and let him know that there are certain things we can't help. I would speak in generalities so as not to make him uncomfortable but be specific enough that he knew what I was getting at. I would just say, "hey, there is no cure, but you also have to have enough discretion to know that it'still a private thing". Just my $0.02.
First of all this is my own personal feelings and opinions.
I think it's absolutely wrong to call anyone names for their choice of life. Don't like the word Pantiephreak anymore than I like sterotyping any other nationality or sexual preferences, or sexual orientation.
My feeling is if you're not hurting yourself or someone else, then it's none of my business and I would only hope others could understand this.
Would have no problem with my son wearing panties if this is what he chose to do. Panties is an article of clothing. Believe me I have more issues of greater magnitude to be worried about on a daily basis.
Understand wearing panties have a deeper meaning to you. Because I understand this, and you all have helped me to understand the importance, I'm able to be the person I am today to help support you, comfort you, and have the items you choose to enjoy. To bring everything full circle in your life.
What I don't understand is, how an individual can take that away from you, knowing it does not make you the "full" person you could be and how much more rewarding it would make their life.
Maybe the stigma in society is what makes people afraid. Maybe they feel you're different and others sometimes can't deal with different. I know for myself I would rather be different than a clone.
Just prefer to be understanding and learn. Than be judgemental over someone wearing panties, when it makes them the person they are.
First of all this is my own personal feelings and opinions.
I think it's absolutely wrong to call anyone names for their choice of life. Don't like the word Pantiephreak anymore than I like sterotyping any other nationality or sexual preferences, or sexual orientation.
My feeling is if you're not hurting yourself or someone else, then it's none of my business and I would only hope others could understand this.
Would have no problem with my son wearing panties if this is what he chose to do. Panties is an article of clothing. Believe me I have more issues of greater magnitude to be worried about on a daily basis.
Understand wearing panties have a deeper meaning to you. Because I understand this, and you all have helped me to understand the importance, I'm able to be the person I am today to help support you, comfort you, and have the items you choose to enjoy. To bring everything full circle in your life.
What I don't understand is, how an individual can take that away from you, knowing it does not make you the "full" person you could be and how much more rewarding it would make their life.
Maybe the stigma in society is what makes people afraid. Maybe they feel you're different and others sometimes can't deal with different. I know for myself I would rather be different than a clone.
Just prefer to be understanding and learn. Than be judgemental over someone wearing panties, when it makes them the person they are.
Donna, "pantiephreak" is my term. At the time, and still to some extent, I think it's kinda cute, but, I suppose there's a few Black folks out there, who are still yet amused by Amos 'n' Andy, Butterfly McQueen ("Prissie" from Gone with The Wind), and Step'n'fetchit.
The pantie passion just hits kinda hard at times, don't you know?
I wouldn't care. At the old site we often discussed these interesting issues and I often found that there were different circumstances for different people, such as:
1) age/generation
2) geographical location (small town or San Fran)
3) occupation (artist/musician or professional/politician)
If I remember correctly those who were older, lived in small towns, and were professionals had much more social ridicule at stake than say a musician living in San Francisco.
